Today I read an article, "Things he does to show he's into you." The article listed some things men do for woman to show their love. Although they are demonstrations of affection; however you need to take care because they may not be a true indication of the quality of relationships.

I do not want to dismiss acts of kindness and generosity, but I once knew a husband who brought to his wife coffee in bed every morning. This was extremely sweet, but the couple divorced a short time later due to lack of communication. That act was simply that – sweet and demonstrative.

Some people quantify their love by the things their lovers do for them. For some, they need proof of love. But you have to be careful tallying the score because some of these acts may be of seduction, wooing, charming or even manipulation. Some may try to buy your affection with acts of kindness.

In sport an athlete can do all that is necessary and even beyond but sometimes to impress the fans, coaches and media. What they bring to the field may be lackluster at best. You would not wager too highly on an athlete who does somersaults in the end zone and dances to impress spectators.

So if you’re date performs these things for seduction, to impress you or your friends and family, you may not have a champion relationship. The key is to find the genuineness in their actions. Do they brag and boast of the things they do for you? Do they do them before others?

How can you be sure of your lover's commitment? The answer is when you never have to question your lover’s commitment. When you stop quantifying what a mate does for you is when you have a true love. A sure bet of love is when you feel confident and secure.

You can trust a true champion will always perform at their highest level regardless of conditions. You have faith they will always bring their best to all factors.  A true champion of love does not need to impress or prove.  What you need to do is look beyond what they do and concentrate on how they make you feel overall.

In looking back at a race horse's prior performances many factors need to be taken into consideration - the conditions, the jockeys, etc. It is really hard to handicap but it is one of the most important that combines many of the handicapping elements.

Training and Grooming - Looking at old pictures of your date will show you their previous state of affairs. Were they careless of their appearance? Oftentimes this means they were careless of their relationships. Were they overly coifed and groomed. It may mean they were insecure and needed to keep appearances. You now need to evaluate how they appear for you. Their appearance demonstrates how feel about our relationships – careless or concerned.

Players - Basically, who did your date "play" with and who did they associate says lots about their character and how they felt about themselves. To put it bluntly, did they date champions, losers or somewhere in-between? You may very much be champions but if your mate has a history of dating losers you may find trouble (Sandra Bullock/Jesse James)

Factors - We've all had bad experiences in dating and all of us at times have shown our dark side. This should be forgiven unless the dark side of the dating handicapping factors prevails; you may have problems. If you date consistently shone pour form, bad ability, too slow, or fast speed and if there was no value in their previous relationships it would be wise to think this one through.

It is true. People have bad relationships they go through bad times. And you can't too much emphasis on past races, but you can monitor behaviors actions and words to see if any of this resurfaces. If so it is not wise to expect different outcomes.